I Think I Need to Re-adjust (from extreme kinky to kinky)

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Obey Ms. Ivey: Spanking?

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Obey Ms. Ivey: Training Autonomic Response

Obey Ms. Ivey: Training Autonomic Response: There is something I have always wanted to try, but have never really had the opportunity to try. I would love to train a male sub to g...

Becoming a Mistress: Approaching Her

Becoming a Mistress: Approaching Her: The second most often asked question I get (after, “Will you be my Mistress?”) is, “How can I approach my wife about FLR's?” I don&...

Obey Ms. Ivey: Some of What I Like

Obey Ms. Ivey: Some of What I Like: There are a large number of things I like to do, sexually speaking. As time goes by, I may give you specific details when I actually do t...

Great tools for helping your husband be more obedient

Gentle Seductress - A guide to the wife led marriage: Great tools for helping your husband be more obedi...: We all know that there are times when our sub-hubby is just more receptive to being trained and some times when it just is work for us not t...

Gentle method and spanking

Gentle Seductress - A guide to the wife led marriage: Gentle method and spanking: You may be wondering if the gentle method I use involves spanking; and it does indeed. There are two very different ways that I spank. Firs...

Orgasm control and release

Gentle Seductress - A guide to the wife led marriage: Orgasm control and release: Orgasm control is an important part of your man's training in a female led relationship. When he truly wants a release but is not allowe...

Training your husband

Gentle Seductress - A guide to the wife led marriage: Training your husband: Many people outside the community look at training as slave training. This is a very unfortunate mistake. Your submissive husband is not on...

He rules the roost, she rules the rooster: Orgasm Denial Play Resumes

He rules the roost, she rules the rooster: Orgasm Denial Play Resumes: I haven't had a lot of time to blog lately, nor read very many other blogs.  A quick recap: I disappointed Suzy during my period of ma...

Becoming a Mistress: Sex & Control

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How do I know which chastity model is best for me?

If you are considering a device for the first time, the choice that we recommend is the CB family of products. They are the easiest for most men to get on, and with the variety of rings and spacers included in a set, it is easiest to find the most comfortable fit.

If you prefer a silicon model as a first experience, Bon-4 may be worth considering because it does come with multiple rings. However, Birdlocked is the more popular model in this space, especially the Neo. Dick Cage has an advantage over Birdlocked in that if you get the ring size wrong, you can purchase a different sized ring.

Men who have a high ball sac may have difficulty with the silicon models. The width of the ring on a Birdlocked model is 30mm, and on a Dick Cage it is 35mm. If you don't have enough slack in your scrotum, it will be very difficult to get on, stay on, and wear discretely and comfortably. The width of the CB rings are only 12mm, and consequently are much easier to wear comfortably.

CB Models

The first consideration is the size of your flaccid penis. The CB-6000 will accommodate a 1 3/8" diameter and about five inches in length. CB-3000 is slightly shorter, but slightly wider than the CB6000. If either dimension are greater than that, the Curve may be the better choice. There is also the CB6000-S model, which is an inch shorter than the regular CB6000, and has been very popular since it's introduction.

Another consideration is appearance. While all models are pretty discrete under loose-fitting clothing, on most men the CB-3000 and CB-6000-S will be the one least likely to be detected. The CB-6000 is also quite discrete. The Curve does protrude out further than other models, but if you are large enough to wear this model, chances are that the bulge in your trousers has been noticed before. :-)


Comfort is another consideration, though they are all about the same once the right fit is found. Generally, people that have bought and used the CB-6000 have commented more about the comfort than the other models. Opinions vary though.

Silicon Models

Birdlocked models are all one piece, and have six models that come in a variety of colors and sizes. Since its introduction in 2010, the Neo model has been by far the most popular for two reasons primarily:

The ring design accommodates a range of 45mm to 52mm, somewhat self-adjusting.
It is designed to be more secure (i.e. more difficult to get out of) than earlier models.

Dick Cage was introduced in 2011, and does a very good job of trapping the penis to prevent escape (though none of the models are fool-proof). Initially, it was only available in clear, but is now also available in black. It offers a choice of three ring-sizes and two lengths of cage.

Bon-4 comes with multiple rings to help find a good fit. Like Dick Cage, it has a choice of short or long tubes. There is actually the "Plus" model which contains both tubes. The biggest criticism of the Bon-4 seems to be around the level of difficulty of getting the unit one, as the attachment of the ring and cage with the provided plastic strap can be very difficult to do without assistance.

Why Would a Woman Want Her Man in Chastity?

Not all women take to the idea of having her man locked up in a chastity device, at least not initially. But based on feedback from our customers, the reasons include: To help restore trust in a relationship when there is suspicion or evidence of extra-marital affairs. Similarly, women who have been hurt by a former partner's infidelity may want her man to wear one for her own sense of security. Some women find it very erotic to be able to control their man's orgasm. A man will try harder to please his woman if there is a chance she will give him access to the key; consequently he's more attentive and helpful around the home. As long as he is wearing it, you will never again have to worry about him leaving the toilet seat up. Generally, when the wife is holding the key and knows that he is locked, she will experience: a greater sense of security and trust with your man a sense of control that some women find very erotic more attention and affection, and fore-play during sex some women find that they want to dress and behave more sexily to further stimulate their man (tease and denial), which in-turn stimulates her own sex drive. The above is not an all-inclusive list, and certainly not every woman will experience all of these feelings and sensations.

Why Would a Man Want to Wear a Chastity Device?

The average man would immediately reject the notion of wearing such a device, as it represents both a loss of something dearly important, as well as being unnecessary and uncomfortable. But after the initial reaction, some men become curious. Men who think they may have a sexual-related problem and/or a submissive nature sometimes will look at these as something of a solution, or something exciting that could add to their relationship. Once a man realizes that wearing the device is totally voluntary, curiosity could lead to giving it a try. Based on feedback from our customers, the reasons include: Need to help restore trust in a relationship with your wife or life partner after a loss of self-control. Self-protection to resist undesired impulses for sexual encounters. Control of compulsive masturbation problems. To spice up your relationship/marriage by surrendering control of your orgasms to your partner. The feelings and sensations that a man may derive from wearing such a device include: Maintained focus (fewer sexual distractions) Self-confidence (no need to be concerned about resisting temptation) A sense of constant, low-level arousal when you think about your wife or partner holding the key Fewer arousing dreams during sleep (once you get used to it) Loss or reduction of arrogance when you've given the key to someone you love Greater self-discipline and temperament Greater ability to trust yourself and others The above is not an all-inclusive list, and certainly not every man will experience all of these feelings and sensations.

How a Novice Dominatrix Takes Charge of His Orgasms

The Art of TAKING CHARGE OF HIS ORGASMS - TEASE AND DENIAL An easy way to start being the dominant female (and one that will generate results quickly) is to control when and how he has an orgasm. Men often respond very well to being controlled this way. It is exciting for them, and they feel very helpless and enamored with a woman who is not afraid to control his sexual release. Begin by just stating your wish, that is he is not allowed to have an orgasm unless you direct him to, and with your permission. You can make the rules any way you want. While he is obeying your commands, he must continue to pleasure you. Tell him how much you enjoy being satisfied while he cannot. If you want to take it up a notch, tie him to the bedposts or tie his hands behind his back while you sit in a chair and tell him what you want. Remind him that he cannot have his release until you give him permission. If he begs or complains about release, make him stay locked up longer (start with a couple of days, then a week, or even longer). Tell him every day that he still has so many days left before release, and if doesn't behave, you can extend the time. When you are satisfied with his suffering, you can make him "EARN" the right to have an orgasm (like cleaning the house, ironing, etc.), or have a great lovemaking session, or even have him masturbate in front of you. He will be putty in your hands. Always remember that the closer you get him to orgasm (edging) and then stop, repetitively, often results in making him hornier. Timing wise, these kinds of scenes work well in the course of ONE evening (lots of starting and stopping, so by the end of the night he's just ready to explode and will do ANYTHING for you), or over several days, with periodic teasing. Teasing can include things like: A racy phone call or voice mail in the middle of the day (tell him what you are wearing or not wearing, that you are enjoying that new vibrator, or tell him about a kinky fantasy, or just simply say "I bet you wish you could cum right now?"). Ways to edge might include , a handjob that never leads to anything, the start of a blow job without completion, wearing something super sexy and flashing him in the bedroom, making him go down on you, sending a pair of your panties to work in his briefcase, pointing out to him casually things about your sexuality, "Gee, it must be cold in here, my nipples are really hard, can you tell?" -- Be a flirty tease, be sexy and know it, be confident and HAVE FUN. Tease the hell out of him. He'll be fit to be tied! (literally and figuratively)