How a Novice Dominatrix Takes Charge of His Orgasms

The Art of TAKING CHARGE OF HIS ORGASMS - TEASE AND DENIAL An easy way to start being the dominant female (and one that will generate results quickly) is to control when and how he has an orgasm. Men often respond very well to being controlled this way. It is exciting for them, and they feel very helpless and enamored with a woman who is not afraid to control his sexual release. Begin by just stating your wish, that is he is not allowed to have an orgasm unless you direct him to, and with your permission. You can make the rules any way you want. While he is obeying your commands, he must continue to pleasure you. Tell him how much you enjoy being satisfied while he cannot. If you want to take it up a notch, tie him to the bedposts or tie his hands behind his back while you sit in a chair and tell him what you want. Remind him that he cannot have his release until you give him permission. If he begs or complains about release, make him stay locked up longer (start with a couple of days, then a week, or even longer). Tell him every day that he still has so many days left before release, and if doesn't behave, you can extend the time. When you are satisfied with his suffering, you can make him "EARN" the right to have an orgasm (like cleaning the house, ironing, etc.), or have a great lovemaking session, or even have him masturbate in front of you. He will be putty in your hands. Always remember that the closer you get him to orgasm (edging) and then stop, repetitively, often results in making him hornier. Timing wise, these kinds of scenes work well in the course of ONE evening (lots of starting and stopping, so by the end of the night he's just ready to explode and will do ANYTHING for you), or over several days, with periodic teasing. Teasing can include things like: A racy phone call or voice mail in the middle of the day (tell him what you are wearing or not wearing, that you are enjoying that new vibrator, or tell him about a kinky fantasy, or just simply say "I bet you wish you could cum right now?"). Ways to edge might include , a handjob that never leads to anything, the start of a blow job without completion, wearing something super sexy and flashing him in the bedroom, making him go down on you, sending a pair of your panties to work in his briefcase, pointing out to him casually things about your sexuality, "Gee, it must be cold in here, my nipples are really hard, can you tell?" -- Be a flirty tease, be sexy and know it, be confident and HAVE FUN. Tease the hell out of him. He'll be fit to be tied! (literally and figuratively)